So, it’s been about a month since I’ve written my last blogpost, “accentuate the positive”…
In it, I talked about how long it takes to break a habit, (28 days) so I’m pretty much on time with this blog.
So, the deal is, that I’ve been holding myself accountable on Facebook, by posting a list of positives at the end of every day, just before bed. Now, I HAVE missed one or two here or there because of not having internet access, but I always made good on it the following morning. Always.
The rule was that I HAD to list at least three positives, but more was a bonus. Now, being the overachiever that I am, I couldn’t HELP but try for more than three, and now, looking back, I think I’ve averaged about 9-10 on most of them. …naturally. I’ve also realized from this exercise, that if you really dig for the positives, you really CAN find them. It’s just difficult not qualifying them. It was more difficult in the beginning, and the digging didn’t come easily. However, as time marched on, I picked them up throughout the day, sometimes even jotted them down, or spoke them aloud to others nearby.
Even the smallest positive can make the day just a bit better, and, apparently, not just for myself. Sharing a positive with someone else, either in conversation or otherwise, spreads the effect. I feel a little better, even physically, and I’m not allowing others to steal my joy. There is now a small circle of people, that I know of anyway, that await these gems being posted. They comment when they don’t initially see them, or if they find comfort in it, find something on the list to be touching or humorous. There’s also been a trickle down effect of at least three people that I know of, who have also begun doing their own lists. Maybe THAT’S what my three really was meant to be?! At least three people, and not three positives?!
Now, I can’t say that I have COMPLETELY eliminated the negative, but I do see much less of it. I’m not walking around in rose colored glasses, but I am taking a better look around me.
I’m also pretty confident that this has also broken my newly recent habit of being negative, even though the stressors still remain. I man, after all, my blood type is B+, so how can I NOT be? Also, chaos cannot remain as is…that’s physics. But then, that’s a whole other blogpost. I challenge all of you…find the positives; eliminate the negatives.
I’d love to hear how it goes for you.